As a man nearing 60, I feel compelled to share a truth that resonates with me, and many of the men I know share the same sentiment. For a woman to keep her husband, beyond the usual moral standards, she must be skilled in the art of intimacy.
It may sound shocking or lacking in virtue, but that's not the case at all. Sexual intimacy is a vital part of a man's life, and anyone who denies it isn't being truthful. A man can be captivated by a woman who isn't traditionally beautiful, like the infamous figure of Mrs. Nara, because she's skilled in the bedroom, while his own "goddess-like" wife might still be neglected.
It's a strange phenomenon, but even when a man is having an affair, he often longs for his wife. Infidelity doesn’t mean he despises his wife completely. He loves her, but she may not know how to satisfy his needs, leading him into the arms of another. Being a good wife is incredibly difficult. Women should discuss and exchange experiences about intimacy, rather than focusing on how to catch a cheating husband. That only pushes him further away. Let's be honest with each other; while happiness requires sharing, sacrifice, and compromise, those qualities have their limits.
I have a friend whose wife would snap at him the moment he initiated intimacy, saying, "Hurry up so I can sleep!" This response left him feeling utterly defeated, and their household was always tense.
To share a personal experience, my own daughter was abandoned by her husband because she was harsh, forbidding him from singing or going out at night, no matter the company. Her constant cold demeanor eventually led to their divorce. There's no greater misery than living with someone you don't trust. How can life go on without the occasional night out with friends?
My aunt, however, took a very different approach. She understood her husband's wandering eyes, but instead of confronting him with anger, she chose to manage the situation in her own way. She even went so far as to introduce her own single friend, Thalia, to him. It was a bold move, one that many would find hard to believe, but she would always remind him, "Whatever you do, keep it in moderation. Of all the women you've been with, I think Thalia is the most suitable." This arrangement might sound strange, but it worked for them. My aunt knew her husband well and realized that trying to control him would only drive him away.
Their relationship was an open secret in the village, one that everyone knew but rarely spoke about. My aunt and uncle lived out their lives together, maintaining a level of peace and understanding that few couples achieve. Even after they passed away, Thalia remained in the village, raising the child she had with my uncle. It’s a story that challenges conventional wisdom, but it’s one that speaks to the complex nature of relationships and the lengths some will go to maintain them.
In the end, my aunt's unconventional approach may not be for everyone, but it worked for her. She found a way to keep her husband close, even if it meant sharing him with someone else. It’s a reminder that every marriage is unique, and what works for one couple might be unimaginable for another. But the underlying truth remains: to keep a marriage strong, a woman must understand and fulfill her husband’s needs, both emotionally and physically.
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